Monogamy....love?

Love and monogamy. I have been thinking about the topic of monogamy for a while now. It seems like everywhere you turn people are bashing the idea of monogamy in general saying things like, "Oh, it isn't realsitic," or, "Come ON! It's normal  to cheat! How can you stay with just ONE person??" In fact, I actually just recently saw an interview on TV where marriage was simply referred to as "stupid". Is that the case? Is the idea of a pairing consisting of two individuals (and only two) so completely unrealistic? I really don't necessarily know how I feel about this topic. Has the whole idea of romance and monogamy become a thing of the past? Are we now living in a society where we can go into relationships just EXPECTING our partners to cheat, and then trying to deal with it once it happens? Where is the line drawn on infidelity? Are the ideas of "true love" and "relationships" going out of style? Are we living in a society where there will no longer be committed couples, or marriage? Well, if Hollywood is any indication....Now, I don't really know the answers to those questions. I know a lot of married couples who appear to be happy, and who have been together for a long time, and they seem to be truly happy. My parents are still married. Seeing those couples makes my heart glad, and it gives me hope that there is still that ideal out there. However, we are living in an age where divorce is quite common. What does that mean? Is true love now just a thing we read about in fairly tales and see in completely unrealistic romantic comedies? 

 Now, I am an incurable romantic. Despite the experiences that I have had, or witnessed, in my own personal life that may tell me that my beliefs are completely unreastic and, in fact, "stupid" I remain a believer in the idea that true love and soulmates do exist. Is this a realistic belief? Maybe...maybe not. What do you think?? Weigh in on this topic, cyberland!

Clothes Porn courtesy of Urban Outfitters...for your viewing pleasure....

These dresses  Urban Outfitters. One of my favorite shops. Enjoy. ;-)

 Sparkle & Fade Knit Bow Back Dress$48.00

 Urban Renewal Soft Shoulder Gauze Dress

$59.00

 6x6 by No.6 Cutout Lace-Trim Dress

$89.00

 Pins and Needles Lace dress-$79

Kimchi Blue Strapless Sundress-$49

Trey Parker and Matt Stone...theatre snobs??

Trey Parker and Matt Stone...theatre snobs??

I just wanted to share this video with y'all. I thought it was too funny not to. Enjoy, kids! ;-)

My Favorite Beauty Finds of the Moment!!

These are amazing products! They have done wonders for my face and neck. Meaningful Beauty by Cindy Crawford.=Delicious!

Soft Soap Tangerine Foaming soap! Yummy!!

The Anti-Aging Lip Treatment by Garden Botanika. I love this product!!

Anthropologie

Louder than Words: Music and Lyrics by Jonathan Larson

This is a song that has been on my mind for the past few weeks. I just love the lyrics, so I though taht I wouls share them all with you:

Why do we play with fire?
Why do we run our finger through the flame?
Why do we leave our hand on the stove-
Although we know we're in for some pain?

Oh, why do we refuse to hang a light
When the streets are dangerous?
Why does it take an accident
Before the truth gets through to us?

Cages or wings?
Which do you prefer?
Ask the birds.

Fear or love, baby?
Don't say the answer
Actions speak louder than words.

Why should we try to be our best
When we can just get by and still gain?
Why do we nod our heads

Although we know
The boss is wrong as rain?

Why should we blaze a trail
When the well worn path seems safe and
Jonathan and Susan:
So inviting?
How-as we travel, can we
See the dismay-
And keep from fighting?


Cages or wings?
Which do you prefer?
Ask the birds

Cages or wings?
 Fear or love, baby?
Don't say the answer
Actions speak louder than words
Louder than, louder than...

What does it take
To wake up a generation?
How can you make someone
Take off and fly?

If we don't wake up
And shake up the nation
We'll eat the dust of the world
Wondering why


Why do we stay with lovers
Who we know, down deep
Just aren't right?
Why would we rather
Put ourselves through hell
Than sleep alone at night?


Why do we follow leaders who never lead?

Why does it take catastrophe to start a revolution?
If we're so free, tell me why?
Someone tell me why
So many people bleed?

Cages or wings?
Which do you prefer?
Ask the birds.

Cages or wings?
Fear or love, baby?
Don't say the answer.


Actions speak louder than

Louder than, louder than
Louder than, louder than

Cages or wings?
Which do you prefer?
Ask the birds
Fear or love baby?
Don't say the answer


Actions speak louder than
Louder than, louder than
They speak louder
Actions speak louder than..

Louder than Words

Friends of JJ

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Choices??

                OK, so last night in class we had an interesting discussion that made me think a little bit. To give a bit of background I am getting my Master's Degree in Mental Health Counseling, and I am now in the process of taking a vocational counseling course. We were talking about jobs, and how the job market has changed over the course of the past two centuries. One of my classmates brought up the fact that there are now more choices than ever before, as far as our vocation is concerned. Think about it. What are we all told as kids? "You can be whatever you want to be!" Whereas back at the beginning of 1900s, if you were a woman, your job was to get married. Pure and simple (and that job was made easy by the fact that your family usually would set you up with a guy in the community that you would eventually marry, so there really wasn't even choice in that!).. If you were a man your were expected to go in to the family business and stay there for most/all of your life. Our professor then posed an interesting question to us, "Do you think that's actually helping us or hindering us in our lives today? Is that much choice always a good thing?" Then, one of the most interesting things happened, and this is what gave me the idea for this entry, the guy that I was sitting next to turned to me and said, "HA! Too much choice? That must be why I'm still single!" (suggesting that he had so much choice there was no way he would EVER possibly think about committing to one single person. This is interesting also, considering the fact that our local news paper actually had an article about the latest trend in romance, poly-amory, which also got me thinking about this topic).
                    Today, we have so many choices, in every aspect of our lives. We go to restaurants and we like choices (I have seen some menus that were almost novel-like in length!). We go to a coffee shop and we like choices. I have had instances where I have been driving down the street and seen three gas stations on three of the four corners of the same intersection. We also like to have options when buying clothes, MP3 players, computers everything. I mean, Apple comes out with a new version of it's latest product about once a year! If kids have to wear a uniform to school (and thereby eliminating the object of choice from what one wears) they become INDIGNANT! I know that I did. We don't even like being told that we have to wear our seat belts (we don't have a choice in the matter). We know that law is there for our protection, yet we still  rebel. In fact, there are numerous laws that are there to protect  us from the stupid choices that we would otherwise make, laws against illegal drugs, drunk driving, etc. Sometimes too much choice can actually end up complicating our lives; even directly harming us, or those around us.
                            So, to wrap up this entry, I would like to pose a question to those of you out there in cyber-land. The same question that my professor asked. Is too much choice always a good thing? If given a plethora of choices, do we, as human beings, tend to make the healthy, positive ones? I also want to add, because I don't want to come off as some sort of NAZI who hates choice, that I love choice. I also love and applaud the human race's ability to analyze situations and make choices. However, I believe that choices can have both very positive, and very negative, effects on all of our lives. So, to finish I would like to encourage all of you to go out there and make positive, healthy choices. This is not just for yourselves as individuals, but for all of those (yes, including all of the animals) that inhabit this earth with you.                   

First Blog.

Hello, all! I am now officially entering the blogosphere. I will be entering my little musings on life, theatre, mental health, coffee, popcorn, books, movies, fashion, traveling and whatever else strikes my fancy. Join me, won't you? ;-)