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Love and monogamy. I have been thinking about the topic of monogamy for a while now. It seems like everywhere you turn people are bashing the idea of monogamy in general saying things like, "Oh, it isn't realsitic," or, "Come ON! It's normal to cheat! How can you stay with just ONE person??" In fact, I actually just recently saw an interview on TV where marriage was simply referred to as "stupid". Is that the case? Is the idea of a pairing consisting of two individuals (and only two) so completely unrealistic? I really don't necessarily know how I feel about this topic. Has the whole idea of romance and monogamy become a thing of the past? Are we now living in a society where we can go into relationships just EXPECTING our partners to cheat, and then trying to deal with it once it happens? Where is the line drawn on infidelity? Are the ideas of "true love" and "relationships" going out of style? Are we living in a society where there will no longer be committed couples, or marriage? Well, if Hollywood is any indication....Now, I don't really know the answers to those questions. I know a lot of married couples who appear to be happy, and who have been together for a long time, and they seem to be truly happy. My parents are still married. Seeing those couples makes my heart glad, and it gives me hope that there is still that ideal out there. However, we are living in an age where divorce is quite common. What does that mean? Is true love now just a thing we read about in fairly tales and see in completely unrealistic romantic comedies?
Now, I am an incurable romantic. Despite the experiences that I have had, or witnessed, in my own personal life that may tell me that my beliefs are completely unreastic and, in fact, "stupid" I remain a believer in the idea that true love and soulmates do exist. Is this a realistic belief? Maybe...maybe not. What do you think?? Weigh in on this topic, cyberland!
I don't think monogamy is "stupid," but I do think there has been a major shift in the expectations and mindset of our society as a whole. I think a lot of couples these days expect that they have a 50-50 chance of staying together anyway, so a lot of the issues that come into play that would break a marriage apart are downplayed. I think monogamy is entirely reasonable, but a strong marriage takes a lot of work at times. In our society we are conditioned to look for the quick and easy way to do everything, and building a good monogamous relationship is contrary to that. I, too, believe that true love and soul mates exist, because I completely believe God has already picked him out for me (whether I know him yet or not.)
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